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“IM BALD AND IM NOT ANYONE’S DAD “: DEALING WITH BALDING AT AYOUNG AGE

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BY ADEOLUWA ATAYERO

Imagine this.

You wake up one morning and you go about your daily morning routine as you have always. You shower; you get dressed and get all set to go about your day. Then on your way out, you take a  glance in the mirror only to discover that your hairline is not where you left it last night. As humorous as it sounds, this is a grim reality that many men face. This is a syndrome called balding. The case of balding and men is nothing new but traditionally, it is a condition that has been associated with middle aged men or older men.  Increasingly, however, more and more have been found to experience the balding condition.

As one can imagine, this might be disheartening for many of them. Truth be told, balding is like any other body development. Being tall at a young age, having a deep voice at an early age, having a muscular physique at an early age and becoming bald at an early age are all signs of growth. They can be caused by inheriting the gene from a parent or because of the diet that the particular man is accustomed to, either way, it is a sign of development. What sets balding apart from the other development is socialisation.

All around the world, across different borders and cultures, hair among men symbolises strength, masculinity and virility. A hairy man  is a youthful man that epitomises masculinity which is synonymous with being attractive to the opposite sex. Whether or not these perceptions are true is irrelevant because it is what we grow up to learn. This is why in the advertisements for hair growth products for men, there is always a woman messing around with the man’s hair, passing a subliminal message that is all but discreet.

Growing up in a society that places such an essence on hair, for young men who lose their hair at an early age,   see  balding as a source of shame. It is true that are less afraid of being seen as being of an older age than women, however, balding is a clear exception. It is an aspect of that ageing   that many find attractive and every youth want to appear youthful.  In recent years , the number of youth men that have reported causes of early balding has increased significantly . According to MoyoClinic.Org, the causes of early balding has been noticed to be majorly stress and inherited genes. Other minor causes include dietary choices, chemicals that hasten or cause balding. Whatever the traits, early balding seems to be a trait to be identified with this generation. How exactly do these young men deal with this untimely ordeal? They ignore it.

Many of them don’t admit it’s a problem that they have. This is because before balding becomes obvious to the people around you, it has been obvious for months, sometimes years, to the person who is going bald. Although it might appear to have come out of nowhere to family and friends, balding is a process that begins for a while before it begins to manifest. Those that don’t ignore the situation admit to start looking for remedies and alternatives to balding. They start buying creams and discreetly make enquiries about how to deal with the impending ordeal. They run into a problem at both ends because firstly, ignoring the problem all but worsens it. This is because when the balding  begins   to manifest, he is more likely to suffer from lack of confidence and low self- esteem.

The young men that make enquiries about remedies for their situation also run into a dead end. This is because most of the medicine and creams that help prevent or reverse balding are made for men older than they are. Using such potent medication or creams at such a tender age would have adverse effects on them later in life. Their side effects such as low sperm count and irritation; not to mention that the medication and creams require a lengthy amount of time to show a bit of transformation. Another alternative that these young men have is the expensive option of surgery,    comes with its own risks and is less than affordable. So for the many young bald men out there, is there any real cure?

The answer is time. Is there a cure to your baldness if you have thousands to spare? Yes. If you  don’t? Not quite. Is there a cure to that fear and lack of self- esteem you feel whenever you see the receding hairline in the mirror or pictures? Yes. Shave it off. It might not be the cure you have in mind but it’s the one that works. The main fear that many of these young men have is actually quite vain. They fear that they will not appear as attractive without a   head full of hair. What they fail to realise that no matter how be ridiculous or unattractive that they might appear with a shaven head, they would doubly ridiculous or unattractive with a scanty head of hair.

What many of these man fail to understand is that the idea that they look unattractive exists majorly in their head. In fact, the person that is most troubled and repelled by their new look is they themselves. This is perfectly normal and is a mere reflection of the social construct and socialisation that they have been nurtured into. It is a phase that will inevitably pass and soon they’ll be grow to be comfortable with their new look. Time heals all. It is an uphill battle, the jokes will always leave a sting and the pictures will always make you wish you had a time capsule but this situation will give you an edge. It’ll force you into becoming your own person; it’ll assign to you an identity that you can only pull off with bravery. It might be a while before you stop being the butt of the joke and the one that starts them but till then remember every time you look in the mirror, that you have taken the higher road and that type of bravery is what makes a real man, not a head full  of hair.

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ADEOLUWA

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EID-EL-KABIR: SANWO-OLU FELICITATES WITH MUSLIMS, CALLS FOR MODERATE CELEBRATIONS

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Lagos State Governor, Mr. Babajide Sanwo-Olu has rejoiced with Muslims across the country on the occasion of Eid-el-Kabir festival, urging them to celebrate moderately in the wake of the rise in cases of the COVID-19 pandemic.

The governor also advised Nigerians, especially Muslims to imbibe the lessons of sacrifice made by Prophet Ibrahim and work for the unity and progress of the nation.

Sanwo-Olu, in his Eid-el-Kabir message released on Thursday by his Chief Press Secretary, Mr. Gboyega Akosile, congratulated Muslims in Lagos and advised them to continue on the path of spirituality and peaceful co-existence.

He said Eid al-Adha became a symbolic event in the history of mankind, given the bountiful rewards that followed the patience and perseverance of Prophet Ibrahim, who held on tenaciously to his faith in God despite being afflicted.

Sanwo-Olu therefore urged Lagosians to draw lessons from the prophet’s examples by eschewing tendencies that could severe the unity and stability in the country.

“Today, I join millions of people around the world, to wish our Muslim brothers and sisters in Lagos State and in Nigeria happy Eid-el-Kabir, which comes with significant lessons for mankind. For the Muslims, today’s celebration is very unique.

“This symbolic Islamic festival is a reminder to us that, there will always be great rewards when we have abiding faith and patience in trying periods; persistence in prayers and tenacity in our belief.

“It also reminds us of the sacrifice we are expected to make not only for the purpose of spiritual fulfillment, but also for the progress of mankind and development of our society.

The governor also reminded Nigerians, especially Lagosians of the need to reflect on the new reality caused by the global coronavirus pandemic, saying it has altered the way we live, work and celebrate.

He said: “Traditionally, Eid-el-Kabir is marked with fanfare, where thousands of worshippers head to various designated praying grounds in their localities for special Eid prayer, followed by festive gatherings, visits to families and friends, gift exchanges, feasts among friends, neighbours and relations.

“However, these activities, which are a reflection of joy and happiness of the season, cannot hold this year due to the COVID-19 pandemic.

“Let us reflect on the last four to five months of our lives as individuals, as a state and as a nation.  We should also remember our health care workers, and thousands of COVID-19 patients who would have loved to be at home to celebrate with us at this moment.”

Sanwo-Olu also advised Nigerians to support the government’s efforts in building a nation that would work for all, adding that the need to keep Nigeria on the path of development is a collective responsibility of all citizens.

“On behalf of my family and the Government of Lagos State, I wish all Muslims a happy and peaceful Eid al-Adha celebration,” he said.

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PA FASANMI, A GREAT NATIONALIST, PASSIONATE LEADER-SANWO-OLU

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Lagos State Governor, Mr. Babajide Sanwo-Olu has expressed sadness over the death of an elder statesman and leader of Yoruba socio-cultural group Afenifere, Senator Ayo Fasanmi whom he described as “a great Nationalist, passionate leader and humility personified.” He was aged 94.

Pa Fasanmi, also the leader of Egbe Ilosiwaju Yoruba, died in the early hours of Thursday, after a brief illness.

Governor Sanwo-Olu, in a condolence message signed by his Chief Press Secretary, Mr. Gboyega Akosile, said the death of the nonagenarian came at a critical period when his wealth of experience, knowledge and wisdom was most needed in Nigeria.

Governor Sanwo-Olu who also described the late Pa Fasanmi as a complete gentleman and selfless leader said he contributed immensely to the development of South West region in particular and the nation in general.

According to Mr Governor, “Pa Fasanmi, was an exemplary leader who spent the greater part of his life in the service of humanity, particularly the Yoruba course where he contributed to the development of the region.

Sanwo-Olu recalled, ” In the old Western Nigeria, Pa Fasanmi served as a member of the Board of Directors of the Old Western Nigeria Housing Corporation.

“He was National President of the Pharmaceutical Society of Nigeria in 1977, elected into the Senate in 1979, and became a member of the House of Representatives in 1983.

He also served as a member of the National Constitutional Conference Commission in 1994.

“Pa Fasanmi was indeed an icon who will never be forgotten in history of Nigeria and the Yoruba race. He will surely be missed.”

Governor Sanwo-Olu said that late Pa Fasanmi, who was an “Awoist” to the core, would be remembered for his words of wisdom in keeping Nigeria as one united entity.

The Governor added that Pa Fasanmi, had always been advocating to Yoruba leaders to forget their differences and close the ranks for the good of the Yoruba race and Nigeria as a whole.

According to the Governor, “the late Pa Fasanmi made the call in Lagos in his remark at the public presentation of the book: “Yoruba Elites and Ethnic Politics in Nigeria: Obafemi Awolowo and Corporate Agency”, written by Professor Wale Adebanwi, an Associate Professor in African American and African Studies, University of California-Davis.

“According to the frontline politician and second republic senator, this is (then) the time for political differences that have existed among the Awoists and the entire Afenifere clan to be cleared.

“At this auspicious time in our country, it is good we are having an occasion like this which brings many of us (Awolowo Associates) together. The event of today suggests to me that we need to forget our differences.

Sanwo-Olu stated that the above statement among other great virtues are what the late Fasanmi stood for.

“On behalf of my family, the Lagos State Government and people of the state, I want to express my sincere and heartfelt condolences to the immediate family members of the deceased; the government and people of Ekiti and Ondo States over the irreparable loss.

“May God give the departed soul eternal rest and the family the fortitude to bear the loss. Adieu Pa Fasanmi,” Sanwo-Olu stated.

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Buhari to observe Eid prayers with family – Presidency

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President Muhammadu Buhari will observe the Eid-el Kabir prayers with his family at home, just as he did during the Eid-el Fitr over two months ago.

Malam Garba Shehu, the President’s Senior Special Assistant on Media and Publicity, stated this in a statement issued in Abuja on Wednesday.

The presidential aide stated that Buhari’s decision was in line with advisories from the Nigerian Supreme Council for Islamic Affairs (NSCIA) and the Presidential Task Force (PTF) on COVID-19.

While wishing all Muslims safe and happy Eid-el Kabir celebrations, the president reiterated the protocols, as issued by the PTF that large gatherings should be discouraged, as much as possible.

“Where small groups choose to hold the Eid together, face masks are absolutely necessary, as social distancing.

“Advisedly, such prayers should hold outdoors and worshippers are encouraged to bring their own prayer mats,’’ the president added.

Buhari also said that he would not be receiving Sallah homage by religious, community, party and government leaders, as part of measures to stop the spread of the deadly virus.

While calling for the observance of the occasion as advised by state and local authorities, the president wished all citizens safe and happy celebrations.

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