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Parenting Becoming Enviable Parents………..Joy Chiagozie Edem



Hello folks! It’s your girl again… This week i bring you a mind blowing topic on parenting. Let us give it up for our ever amazing parents that are taking up the task of raising their kids. Parenting is so vast; hence, it is a topic that cannot be covered just in a day. It is a process – a work in progress. For the parents that are doing it right, kudos to you… For the ones that are not getting it right somehow, I hope you will go back to the drawing board after reading this. This is not to bring any parent(s) down; every parent whether single or married, you are just amazing.

To the single parents, you guys rock! Different people have different opinion concerning parenting. In my opinion, I think parenting is the mandate to support, promote, protect and nurture the physical, emotional, spiritual and psychological development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Every parent(s), whether biological or non biological have been given this mandate, they are the caretakers in child development. As a parent, you should ask yourself “Am I raising the child to see a positive result in him/her in the near future or is it the other way round”? This should be the question at the back of parents’ mind, as long as parenting is concerned because children are like seeds; they germinate and bear fruits of your desired specie of plant.

Presently, it is obvious that there is generally a low level of discipline and morality in our society. It is indeed disheartening that indiscipline is now the order of the day amongst teenagers, all thanks to the adults and some parents who in one way or the other contribute in taking away the innocence of this young generation. Some parents in the name of being fashionable expose these kids to provocative lifestyles. In this social media age, I see adults expose kids to a lot of uncomfortable lifestyles like dressing children up especially the girl – child in provocative manner as though they were adults, putting heavy make-up on them and considering it “trending” A couple of weeks ago, I overheard a lady telling her friends that she was “enjoying” the movie “spartacus” with her kids and there was power interruption (thank God for NEPA o! because they saved the situation. Lol) then i asked myself how old are these kids? Let me guess…. around age 5 to 10 considering how young they looked. Spartacus? Apparently, she does not know the magnitude of the “gunpowder”she is gathering until it explodes.

On a more serious note, movies should be censored, Yes! You heard right. Parents must adhere strictly to parental control functions of every movie. Not all television programs are children – friendly, let there be some restrictions in watching TV especially programs that have violence, erotic scenes and strong languages. Sacrifice the time you use to watch adult channels like telemundo, E! etc to watching kiddies shows with them. Help them nurture interest for educative shows.

Children are adventurous in nature, they are good observers, they love doing what adults do. It is no news that pornography is so common among youths these days. The rate Of immorality is alarming in our society as most of the children grow up without imbibing the desirable qualities of honestly, humility, self – respect, integrity and respect for the dignity of labour. A picture of two under-aged kids having sex was trending on social media sites last week (i nukwa akuko?). For Heaven’s sake, something is wrong some where; perhaps they’ve unfortunately seen their parents do it or who knows, it could be some things they have seen on TV.

Am not trying to be a critic here but in my own opinion, one room apartment is not the best home to raise children because there are challenges that come with it. When you think of getting married, you are equally thinking of having kids. So a room apartment is not the ideal place to raise children. In addition, some parents seem not concerned about where their kids get some material /monetary gifts from. You see a so-called “uncle” admiring an under-aged girl and her mother will proudly boast to her friends that men give her under-aged daughter gifts because of her beauty instead of bragging about her academic performance, i hope you know that sexual molesters and child traffickers are on rampage. Sadly, present day parent(s) pay little or no attention to their only task of bringing up their children because they claim to be career-driven parents, relinquishing their duties to household employees. I saw on the social media few weeks ago, a case of an elderly man, employed specially for school-runs who was caught pant – down having sex with a girl that should be under his protection…. Who knows how long this has been going on before they were caught.

Hmmm! Odikwa risky Placing excessive emphasis on making money to the detriment of your children. Consequently, today’s parents (Digital parents) are different from the olden days’ parents. “Digital mums/dads” do not beat their kids rather, they send them to “naughty corners” when they misbehave. The olden days parents would reset your brain with corrective whipping if you dare try to go astray. Often, some parents are like “i don’t beat my kids because it took me good 8years before they started coming, story! (read proverb 22:6). Please, please and please don’t fail as a parent no matter the obstacle even if it took you decades to have them because God entrusted in your care those little angels for you to take care of them, correct them, lead them by example, cherish them, pamper them but not spoiling them to avoid living in perpetual anguish as failed parent(s). CHEERS!!!

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Unveiling the theme and logo for the commemorative activities to celebrate 60 years of independence, President Muhammadu Buhari Wednesday in Abuja described Nigeria, Africa’s largest economy, as the most prosperous black nation in the world.

Nigeria at 60 theme, TOGETHER, with the logo was projected and unveiled virtually on the 12 by 20 feet screen at the Council Chambers, before the commencement of the e-Federal Executive Council (FEC) meeting presided over by President Buhari.

The President performed the exercise in the presence of some cabinet ministers and other members of the council who joined the meeting online.

”Today, we stand on the threshold of history as we formally begin a series of activities commemorating Nigeria’s Diamond Anniversary.

”The task history has saddled me with today is to proclaim a theme that will keep us united, help us forge ahead and unveil a logo that will form the critical pillars which our 11-month modest commemorative activities would rest on.

”Celebrating sixty years of independence really calls for pomp, but the global COVID-19 pandemic, which has forced all nations in the world to think and act differently, has also foisted on us the imperative of a low-keyed celebration.

”Operating within the limitations placed by the COVID-19 pandemic, we created an internet challenge for Nigerians to make a choice from a set of four pre-selected logos that would appropriately define the theme.

”Of these four options, Nigerians from all walks of life participated in making a choice and I am happy to let you know that the logo I would be unveiling is a product of choice from the Nigerian people,” President Buhari said.

Speaking further on the logo, the President declared:

”The selected option depicts our togetherness, a country of over 200 million people whose natural talent, grit and passion glitter like the precious DIAMOND we are.

”This, to me, is a special appreciation to our most precious asset – our people. Everywhere you go, Nigerians are sparkling like diamonds in the pack, whether in academia, business, innovation, music, movie, entertainment, fashion and culture.

”Furthermore, the neatly encrusted Diamond on the Nigerian Map symbolizes our age of treasure, the worth of the Nigerian people with our sparkle to the admiration of the world.

‘‘In the same vein, the pear green and dark green colours should respectively remind us of our warmth, welcoming spirit and love as well as the abundant wealth inherent in our human capital and the richness of our land.

‘‘All these properties make us unarguably the most prosperous black nation in the world and Africa’s largest economy.’’

On the theme of TOGETHER, President Buhari recounted that the country’s founding fathers, in spite of the differences in faith, tribe and tongue came together to fight for Nigeria’s independence.

‘‘This shall be a befitting tribute to the struggles of our heroes past,’’ he said.

The President thanked members of the Inter-Ministerial Committee (IMC) on Nigeria’s Sixtieth Anniversary Celebration for the work they have done so far, reminding them ‘‘that this is just the beginning.’’

President Buhari pledged that his government would work towards greater inclusiveness and look forward to the participation of all Nigerians in the celebration.

Femi Adesina
Special Adviser to the President
(Media & Publicity)
September 16, 2020

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Procurement: Lagos Assembly Raises Mobilization Fee by 20 Percent



Lagos State House of Assembly on Wednesday, September 16, 2020, has proposed the amendment of the State Procurement Agency Law, 2015 with a view to raising the advance payment from 20 to 40 percent.
This was made known during the public hearing on a bill titled, ‘The Lagos State Public Procurement Agency (Amendment) Bill, 2020,’ which took place at the Lagos House of Assembly Pavilion.
In his keynote address, the Speaker of the House, Rt. Hon. Mudashiru Obasa who was represented by his Deputy, Hon Wasiu Sanni-Eshinlokun said, “Procurement is very important. It has to do with the delivery of goods and services. We felt we should do what is needed to set the state on the part of progress.”
According to him “the idea of public hearing affords the policymakers to hear from the masses. It is meant to build public confidence in the government. Good legislation must not be the yearnings of the populace alone, it must be the aggregated interest of the people.”
“We are here to discuss important issues, which is public procurement. Procurement is broad, encompassing, and covers all aspects of government activities. Lagos State is proud to be one of the states with one of the best procurement policies in Nigeria.”
He however stated, “We must never rest on oars towards the provision of better democracy. We can make remarkable progress and improvement through our contributions today.”
The Chairman, House Committee on Public Procurement, Hon. Rauf Age-Sulaimon said the purpose of the amendment is “to ensure that the society is regulated. When you are talking about development, procurement is the most important because if, government projects are not properly executed, of course, you will not see the result.”
“We have been talking about the money needed for projects and the economy is not smiling at all and for us to support contractors there is a need on the part of the government to encourage them. The essence of this is to increase from 20% to 40% so that the person involved would be able to do the job effectively.”
“We will ensure that the contractors adhere strictly to the terms of the contract. It will benefit the masses because it will not be the winner takes it all. It will not be the survival of the fittest because the fittest might not be capable. It is open to everybody. Once you have the requirement you will be allowed to bid.”
While giving the overview of the Bill, the Majority Leader, Hon. Sanai Agunbiade said, “the law as it stands today has 83 sections, out of which we are proposing to amend 38 sections. The reason for the amendment is to simplify the narration.
Agunbiade explained, “Amendment of section 63, advance payment of not more than 40 percent of the contract sum may be paid to a supplier or contractor.
“Provided that advance payment above 40 percent shall be subject to the regulation prescribed by the agency.
“Subject to the provisions of subsection (1) of this section, any person, company or authority who accesses mobilization fee and absconds or does not carry out the services or works commensurate to the fee paid commits an offense and is liable on conviction to imprisonment for two years or a fine equivalent to the fee paid or both “
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BREAKINGNEWS: Ogun politician, Buruji Kashamu dies of COVID-19



Ben Murray-Bruce who broke the news on Twitter said Kashamu died at First Cardiologist Consultants in Lagos.


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